What do you have to gain?

Natalie Bejarano-Dugarte, Staff Writer

Have you ever been in a relationship and been afraid to leave it behind? What about seeking out new friends? Have you let the fear of failure hold you back in life? Have you given in to the fear of possibly not getting what you want?

Many of us tend to underestimate ourselves, settling for the worst.  However, this usually does not happen because we think poorly of ourselves.

It happens to the best of us when we become too afraid to accept and embrace change. In most cases, it happens when we begin to calculate potential losses over potential gains.

Think about the last time you made an important decision. Did you think about what you had to lose in order to achieve what you wanted?

“What do you have to lose?”

This question is setting limitations on your behavior, but the effects are often so minute you do not even realize they are there.

Consider this:  Whenever you or someone you know asks you this question, do you actually sit pondering what could go wrong? Maybe not, but statements like these are powerful and can affect us.

Why not think, “What do you have to gain?”

It has a more positive tone to it, and you can come up with infinite responses to the question. It maximizes your potential to succeed instead of dragging you down with thoughts of 100 ways you could possibly fail.

When you are too afraid to make a change because you are not sure about what you are going to lose, think about how the change can help you grow and establish your goals.

Fear has the power to hold all of us hostage to our thoughts. It has the power to manipulate our thinking and make us believe that nothing good can come out of taking a chance or making a change.

Sometimes we create our own blockages and get stuck in the same scenarios and situations day after day because they are all we know, but it does not have to be that way.

Things come and things go, and you know yourself better than anyone else. If something is not working for you in your life, make a change, and instead of facing the change with regret and fear about what could happen, embrace it.  Think about what you will have to gain when it is all said and done.