What does it really mean to be good enough?

Natalie Bejarano-Dugarte, Staff Writer

Comparing ourselves to other people tends to happen more often than we think. We do it on an unconscious level, and it can impact the way we feel about ourselves and our behavior in different situations.

But, here is the question: If you do not compare yourself to other people, how can you know what you need to improve on or make better?

The truth is, comparing yourself to others is not entirely a negative practice, but it can become one.

It is how you think of yourself that affects what you believe about yourself and how well you progress toward your goals.

This is a common statement: “How can he or she accomplish all of that when I cannot?”

It is extremely negative and tarnishing to your self-esteem.  Now look at it from the differing perspective:  “What is he or she doing that allows them to accomplish all of that? What could I possibly be doing right now that will get me the results I want?”

It is good when you can look to someone you admire and aspire to be like them.

The idea is to add to your chances of succeeding in what you want, not hinder them.

You see, it is easy to get carried away with comparing yourself to others. We all do it, and though we get told it is a “no-no,” it can be quite beneficial if you use it to your advantage.

Do not tear yourself down, and try not to evaluate yourself so harshly.  That will only hinder your emotional and mental progression toward accomplishing your goals.

Honestly, you should not strive to be better than anyone.  You should strive to be a better version of yourself.

Instead of negatively comparing yourself to others, list the qualities in others that you admire, and try to model them yourself.

You will find this is a much safer, gentler method to bettering yourself rather than decreasing your self-esteem. No two people are ever alike, but with a little patience and time you can become that person you have always wanted to be.

The idea of “never being good enough” speaks only to what you think of yourself.  You can be good enough, and you are.